I live in a rather small town. However, the two large cities that I’m smack-dab in the middle of, are closing in faster then I realized. I’ve never felt scared in my home town before. I’m not scared to walk through bad parts of big cities, and I’ve walked through some really bad areas, I like to explore. Not once have I ever felt bad vibes like this guy gave me the other day.
I realize abductions can happen anywhere, and in most cases in places that you least expect. I’m not one of those people who walks around scared or worried about things like that, but it did more then cross my mind in this situation.
I pulled into the Walgreens parking lot, parked my car four spots away from the door. Before I got out of my car I noticed a guy walking out and getting into the passenger side of a silver 4door truck parked in the spot closest to the door. I had to walk by the truck to get into the store. When I did, the driver of the truck opened his door & really scummy said “HeY SexXxXy wHy Don’t yOu Put YouR fiNe aSSsS in the BacKSeAt of My trUcK” and then he turned up his music like I would think he was cool or something. It scared me, but I rolled my eyes and gave him an *I’ll kill you, you dumb fuck look* as I kept walking into the store.
I wasn’t feeling good. I was a mess, wearing my puppy slippers, spandex and a T-Shirt, that covered my ass – I wasn’t wearing any makeup and I don’t think I had even got around to brushing my hair. I just wanted to be left alone.
I was inside the store for about ten minutes making sure no one was following me or watching me as I collected everything I wanted but didn’t need. I got up to the checkout and there was a lady ahead of me in line. I took that as an opportunity to peek out the door to see if the truck was still out there, it was. The lady that was in front of me in line had stepped out of line, and let me go ahead of her. Both the lady and the casher were talking to me but I didn’t retain anything they were saying because I was so nervous at that point. I didn’t want to walk back out there with those guys still sitting in the parking lot. I’m a feisty little thing, but I’m no match for two grown men. So I told the cashier about the incident and asked her if I could have someone walk me out to my car (I’ve never had to do this before). The lady behind me said “Are you taking about the two guys in that silver truck” I said “Yes”. She said they were bothering her on the way in also, and she offered to walk out with me. By that time the manager walked up and I explained the situation and he ended up walking both of us out along with the assistant manager.
The lady just so happened to be parked right next to me, but one spot closer to the truck. I thanked everyone and got in my car, locked my doors in a hurry. The other woman wasn’t in such a hurry, and made it a point to let the guys in the truck know why the managers were out there. I could hear her through my window and she was pointing at the guys in the silver truck screaming to the managers “I HOPE YOUR GOING TO DO SOMETHING ABOUT THESE GUYS”. The guys in the truck were in a *I’m not scared – What you gana do* staring match with the managers. I started my car, backed out of the parking spot. When I did… I noticed that the silver truck wasn’t started and I took that as an opportunity to get the hell out of there incase they had it in mind to follow me. I kept one eye in the rearview mirror and made it home safely.
So this got me thinking… (I’m always thinking)
I can’t speak for all women but normally I don’t mind strangers passing me complements or some light catcalling. I’ve found most of them flattering. It’s the loud, obnoxious, scary calls I don’t much care for. Most guys know It’s disrespectful to yell bad words out the window at a woman. The only women you can pick up that way YOU DONT WANT – Just take my word for it. If a woman is walking with her child/children, keep your thoughts to yourself. Try to explain to a five year old why some guy is catcalling you – It’s not fun!
Below are some sweet real life experiences of mine, that left me with a smile.
~Whisper to your kitty: I’ve had guys walk by me and very quietly in passing whisper one sweet word in my ear, so only I would hear it. For example: Wow, Beautiful, Gorgeous. I noticed this one gain popularity in just the last few years. I find this a respectful way to complement a woman if she is walking with her child, on her own, in a group, or anywhere.
~The Whistle is classic: I don’t think I would banish the drive by whistle! It’s a harmless timeless classic. I think most women dislike this because it draws attention and could be embarrassing. My thoughts are women need to get a whistle every now and then. People should know their in the presence of a beautiful woman, and a woman deserves to know she’s whistle worthy.
~You’re Precious: I was 16 and a guy behind me in line at the 7-11 told me I was Precious – He had me hook, line, and sinker. Until we walked outside and he asked me if I was a dancer/stripper…lol. Even tho he blew it with the stripper comment… I’ll always remember this guy, because no one had ever told me I was Precious before.
~Down on one knee: I was 17 and I just got out of court (for a child custody hearing) I was dressed to impress. My home was within walking distance of the court house, so on the way home I stopped at the corner store to grab a drink or something. Then I was on my way… as soon as I crossed the street I hear someone say “Hey wait!”. I turned around and this beautiful guy ran across the street, dropped to his knee, asked me to forgive him, then told me how beautiful he thought I was and that he would do anything to get my number and take me out sometime. I broke my own heart having to tell him I had a boyfriend.
I’ve got to run away now… I’ve been working on a bad ass mash-up video for my sites second anniversary on Nov.19!